I am a dad, a Master's-level therapist and sex educator for tweens, teens and parents in Seattle, Washington. For the last 20 years, I have worked in that intersection of adolescence, technology and sexuality.
I speak internationally using information, education and humor to help parents and professionals increase their knowledge and self-confidence as a proactive defense against the unfortunate consequences that sometimes accompany teen sexuality, screen behavior and development.
I provde training for organizations and agencies as well as therapy to adolescents and families around a gambit of sexuality themes - with an emphasis on LGBT issues, Internet safety, digital citizenship and comprehensive sex education.
I am the author of the Spare Me, "The Talk", series - guides to sex relationships and growing up for modern teens and their parents. My lastest book, The Pride Guide, is an encompassing guide to sexual and social and development, safety and health for queer youth and their families. This book is - proudly- the first puberty book written with queer (and specifically trans) youth in mind.
My mission is to provide healthy social and sexual information to teens and their parents — a multi-pronged approach consisting of books, live speaking events, and a number of resources for youth, their families and other professionals around adolescence, sexuality and technology.
I have spent over 15 years in private practice providing therapy to adolescents with sexuality issues and sexual behavior problems, as well as comprehensive sexuality education for t/weens and their families. I have worked in the helping field in some capacity for over 20 years. From peer counseling and student outreach programs in high schools, to hospital work in medical and psychiatric settings. I have worked with families of children of all ages in both group home and community settings. All of this experience has culminated in the last 2 decades with my work with boys around sexuality, and technological behavior.
Therapeutically my philosophy revolves around concepts of empathy, insight, drive, social skills, and a subscription to something larger than one’s own, isolated ego.
My style and Master’s training is systemic, which means that I encourage people to explore not only themselves, but also the ways in which they interact with the world around them.
My personal mode is Strategic, meaning I employ creativity and humor in order to stop unhelpful patterns of behavior replacing them with more pro-social and predictable behaviors.
In addition to my private practice, community-based, sexual, social and technological education has been a passion of mine because it is, by its very nature, so integral in creating healthy lives for teens.